Who Do You Love?
Twenty-eight years later and I’m embracing every single bit of the mindset that requires me to love me, with no permission needed. Whatever fills my soul, I do more of that. Whatever perks me up, gives me energy, relaxes me, whatever I need for me, I do that. Easier said than done? Mmm, I think so.
It’s been a journey to be in this space of intentional mindfulness, and yes I'm still arriving but what I’ve learned thus far has truly done wonders for me. I learned that if I’m doing what’s necessary to keep me going, on a consistent basis I have less moments of feeling like I’m going to “explode” to say the least.
Learning how to provide your physical, and mental with the small necessities, experiences or company to feel aligned and at peace with yourself is a balancing act. Listening to your body and how you feel is so important to give yourself what’s needed. One thing I won’t do, is let someone drain me. I’m sorry, but it’s me before you (Now, this may not apply to those with specific responsibilities, like being a parent, but you know what I’m saying). I can’t over-extend myself all the time to give away the little bit of me I may have left. I like to have mental boundaries set. I don’t have to vocalize them all the time, but I just stay aware with how I feel, and I’ll either cut the conversation short, or politely excuse myself until next time ya know?
I used to feel like picking up that extra shift, saying yes to the last minute event, or committing to do something I know I don’t have time to do, would be so pleasing to other people. I thought it would prove how great of an employee I am, how dedicated and willing I am to go the extra mile; or how supportive of a friend I am. That’s not really true to an extent. I learned if that extra shift required me to not operate at my level 10 self, miss the family event to make extra money, or truly be too exhausted to be present at this event where are my priorities, really? What’s most important to me? How am I being true to myself? How am I working smarter to have what I want financially without over-extended myself if that’s not my personal goal. This looks different for all of us, but these were things I had to analyze to be able to shift my mentality for a more balanced result. It’s okay to say no sometimes.
That being said - before life hits you like a bag of bricks, all white bricks, off-white bricks, light-tan bricks…jk lol (Y’all remember that song?). Anyways, when you’re feeling like you need some extra sprinkles on your ice-cream, gold stars in your life, or extra mints in your mojito this is for you.
20 ways to practice Self-Love
- Unplug from social media & your TV
- Get your favorite drink from Starbucks (Or try a local coffee shop)
- Cruise around your city
- Pray or meditate (Whatever resonates with you)
- Read (a devotional, bible, book)
- Pamper yourself (Massage, nails, hair appointment, Sephora)
- Go for a walk or an outdoors adventure
- Take a bubble bath (Lush bath bombs are life) - treat yourself!
- Workout or do yoga that day
- Cook and try a new recipe
- Did I mention bubble-bath? Legit, my favorite
- Create your goals or your vision board
- Take yourself on a date (go to lunch or an event solo)
- Meet someone new
- Cry if you need to - feel all the feels’
- Focus on the day
- Music for the mood
- Go to Target (That’s like the self-love stamp of validation)
I hope these help you! Try at least 3 of these 20 things this week and tell me what you did and how it made you feel. I really want to know!
"Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself - what you're wearing, who you're around, and what you're doing. Recreate and repeat." -Warsan Shire